You’ve probably heard the saying, when you know better, you do better. But how do you know what you don’t know if you want to know, you know?

Maybe you’ve come to a place in your life where you know you want or need to make a change, but you don’t know how you’ve gotten where you are, or even how to start creating something different for that matter.

The truth is that if you know you want to “do better,” then the answers are already within you. The key is how do you get them out?

Start by asking yourself some questions. But not just any questions.  They must be powerful, investigative and forward moving.   “Why” questions can have the tendency of keeping us locked in place. Why is this happening to me? Why can’t I change this? Why don’t I know what to do?  Take a moment to ask yourself these questions right now regarding a current situation in your life.  How do you feel?  Empowered? Probably not. This type of questioning can create feelings of insecurity, victimhood, unworthiness, blame and even hopelessness.

Your focus should be on uncovering how you need to behave differently in order to produce the results you seek.  Your choices are what move the steering wheel of your life; if you want to change direction, you need to make different choices.

Ask yourself:  What is it that I really want?  What can I learn from this situation? What steps can I take to improve on this situation?  Compare these to the “Why” questions you asked before.  See the difference? This type of questioning puts you in the driver’s seat and starts pointing you in the direction of the change you seek.

The most important point to remember is that you must embrace the courage needed to answer your questions truthfully.  Anyone can make a change; the point is to create new ways of being that actually make you happy. This requires honesty and commitment to oneself.  

Want to “do better?”  Start asking some questions.  If you really listen, you may be surprised to find you know more than you know.

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