Some of us may remember the screeching sound of “Did I do that” delivered by the lovable, yet somewhat annoying nerd Steve Urkel on the sitcom Family Matters. Despite his best efforts, invariably he found himself in situations requiring multiple apologies and undoubtedly a slew of cleaning products to fix the mess he made.
So what does this have to do with you? To some degree, there will be a time for most of us when we react in ways that are unexpected or undesirable.
Do you find that despite your best efforts, sometimes you surprise yourself by your own actions and reactions to certain situations in your life? If you find yourself asking “Did I do that” more than you would prefer, here are some tips to help you figure out how to make a change.
Firstly, it is important to note that:
1. Thoughts generate feelings. Whether conscious or unconscious, your thoughts are responsible for what you feel.
2. Emotions are the catalyst to action. Your behaviors are the result of the feelings you are experiencing. Your perceptions will push you to act in order to avoid pain or pursue pleasure.
In order to change any behavior, start by working backward and ask yourself:
What was I feeling when I behaved the way I did?
What thoughts might be responsible for that feeling?
Is there another area in my life where the same connection exists between the feeling and the thought?
Awareness is the first step to change. As you pay closer attention to you, with the intention for positive change, insights will start coming in to show you the way.
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